Jeanette in her natural state... Laughing!

…great spouse!

Let me be perfectly honest with you. Your spouse is either working WITH YOU…
…or AGAINST YOU…

I know that sounds harsh… Let me explain…

You´re either working as a team, or sitting on a different train…
Of course it depends a little bit if your art is a hobby or if you´re aiming for going pro.

Me and Jeanette have been together for 11 years. That´s a long time… (Yeah, long enough to turn our home into a frantic zoo)

But that´s not the point.

We´ve been going through some major, and I mean MAJOR difficulties. I don´t know how many times we´ve been close to split up and just give up the whole relationship thing.

But we didn´t…

Every couple that´s been together for a while will tell you that they´ve overcome some huge challenges.

Why?

Because that´s part of life… Period.

Now, what do I mean with working with or against you?

Does that mean you have to be equal?

No!

Have the same opinions?

No!

Or do I mean that you split everything 50/50?

No, no, no, no and NO!

Working WITH means that you´re both engaged towards YOUR common future and goals…
You can then be totally different, like me and Jeanette. We´re not even close to being equal.

Ok… Of course, you need to have similar values and goals, but other than that – you can be like ying and yang.

Jeanette is more outgoing and possesses a high emotional intelligence.. Well, that´s not only a good thing… 🙂 She talks all the time… Laughs atleast 71 times a day… And is completely unaware if anyone else thinks it´s funny too…

…But don´t tell her I said that!

I´m less outgoing, but instead I have lots of logical intelligence and creativity. While, Jeanette is more careful, I´m more daring.

The point is… We FIT.

Opposites Attract, by Paula Abdul – great song by the way!

Now, what do I mean with being engaged towards a common future?

That means that BOTH are not 50% – but 100% deidicated towards the same thing. How you do it, is not important. Let me tell you a story:

During the initial year, when our company was new – there were loooooong hours involved. And I´m not talking about 8 hours a day. No, I´m talking about 19 hours a day, including a fulltime day-time job.

There was almost NO time at all for Jeanette and hardly any time for life at all. And when there was, I was dead tired, laying in my bed and counting spider webs in the ceiling that I should have taken care of last week…

Yeah, ok – I have to admit – like a suck up flower wasn´t needed from time to time. 🙂

Back to the story. Jeanette worked WITH me, by simply LETTING me do what I NEEDED to do.

Get the point?

She could have said – hey mister – I didn´t sign up for this – now, you either give me real flowers, hangovers from wine, stiletto shoes, more carpet eating puppies and a VISA card for shopping make up – or I´m out of here.

She didn´t.

(Yeah, I know – that day will come. 😉 )

But the fact is, she believed in me and she worked with me. By simply getting out of my way. Don´t get me wrong. Not getting out of my way in THAT way… We simply worked as a team, with separate tasks – for the same goal.

And guess what…

…that paid off – big time.

Why am I talking about this? Because I´m opening the new Dreamlight Dating Service?

NOT!

Because YOU need to support eachother… Whether that´s 3D graphics, running a business or playing with your hobby.

Support is important, because whatever you´re doing, you will face obstacles.

Trust me – you will…

If you´re in here for the long run… If you walk the path and are determined to GET there, then obstacles WILL get in your way.

So, lucky me for finding a great spouse?

Hell no!

I don´t belive in luck. I believe in MAKING things happen.

However… THAT didn´t come naturally to me. That was a tough lesson to learn… 🙂
I wouldn´t have come this far without Jeanette and our fury kids. But I wouldn´t have come as far without ME believing in myself either.

Your EARN your support. You don´t get it.

You EARN it…

Now, I´ve got three fury ladies sitting infront of me in my office, with that FEED ME look in their face… And I swear I saw some kind of hunger in my wifes eyes too… 🙂

So, I´d better stop writing and make us some romantic dinner! 🙂

Waldemar Belwon