Let me be perfectly honest with you. Your spouse is either working WITH YOU…
…or AGAINST YOU…
I know that sounds harsh… Let me explain…
You´re either working as a team, or sitting on a different train…
Of course it depends a little bit if your art is a hobby or if you´re aiming for going pro.
Me and Jeanette have been together for 11 years. That´s a long time… (Yeah, long enough to turn our home into a frantic zoo)
But that´s not the point.
We´ve been going through some major, and I mean MAJOR difficulties. I don´t know how many times we´ve been close to split up and just give up the whole relationship thing.
But we didn´t…
Every couple that´s been together for a while will tell you that they´ve overcome some huge challenges.
Because that´s part of life… Period.
Now, what do I mean with working with or against you?
Does that mean you have to be equal?
Have the same opinions?
Or do I mean that you split everything 50/50?
No, no, no, no and NO!
Working WITH means that you´re both engaged towards YOUR common future and goals…
You can then be totally different, like me and Jeanette. We´re not even close to being equal.
Ok… Of course, you need to have similar values and goals, but other than that – you can be like ying and yang.
Jeanette is more outgoing and possesses a high emotional intelligence.. Well, that´s not only a good thing… She talks all the time… Laughs atleast 71 times a day… And is completely unaware if anyone else thinks it´s funny too…
…But don´t tell her I said that!
I´m less outgoing, but instead I have lots of logical intelligence and creativity. While, Jeanette is more careful, I´m more daring.
The point is… We FIT.
Opposites Attract, by Paula Abdul – great song by the way!
Now, what do I mean with being engaged towards a common future?
That means that BOTH are not 50% – but 100% deidicated towards the same thing. How you do it, is not important. Let me tell you a story:
During the initial year, when our company was new – there were loooooong hours involved. And I´m not talking about 8 hours a day. No, I´m talking about 19 hours a day, including a fulltime day-time job.
There was almost NO time at all for Jeanette and hardly any time for life at all. And when there was, I was dead tired, laying in my bed and counting spider webs in the ceiling that I should have taken care of last week…
Yeah, ok – I have to admit – like a suck up flower wasn´t needed from time to time.
Back to the story. Jeanette worked WITH me, by simply LETTING me do what I NEEDED to do.
Get the point?
She could have said – hey mister – I didn´t sign up for this – now, you either give me real flowers, hangovers from wine, stiletto shoes, more carpet eating puppies and a VISA card for shopping make up – or I´m out of here.
(Yeah, I know – that day will come. 😉 )
But the fact is, she believed in me and she worked with me. By simply getting out of my way. Don´t get me wrong. Not getting out of my way in THAT way… We simply worked as a team, with separate tasks – for the same goal.
And guess what…
…that paid off – big time.
Why am I talking about this? Because I´m opening the new Dreamlight Dating Service?
Because YOU need to support eachother… Whether that´s 3D graphics, running a business or playing with your hobby.
Support is important, because whatever you´re doing, you will face obstacles.
Trust me – you will…
If you´re in here for the long run… If you walk the path and are determined to GET there, then obstacles WILL get in your way.
So, lucky me for finding a great spouse?
I don´t belive in luck. I believe in MAKING things happen.
However… THAT didn´t come naturally to me. That was a tough lesson to learn…
I wouldn´t have come this far without Jeanette and our fury kids. But I wouldn´t have come as far without ME believing in myself either.
Your EARN your support. You don´t get it.
You EARN it…
Now, I´ve got three fury ladies sitting infront of me in my office, with that FEED ME look in their face… And I swear I saw some kind of hunger in my wifes eyes too…
So, I´d better stop writing and make us some romantic dinner!